NOTES ON A SUNDAY (3)

NOTES ON A SUNDAY 3

Happy Sunday guys! If you follow me on Twitter you know that I just started watching House of Cards, I know I’m late, and I am literally obsessed! This show is amazing- I graduated with a political science major so I’ve been a lover of politics and news media for a while. Frank and Claire are amazingly ruthless and this demonstrates all the stuff and schemes that go on behind the curtain. If you are familiar with the show, you know the main character Francis Underwood is full of interesting quotes that leave you thinking even after the show is done. This week one of his quotes inspired my post.

Not settling for mediocre or situations that don’t reach specific goals has been something that’s important to me for a long time. From applying to colleges, taking internships/jobs during college and even in my current job. I always feel that there’s this proverbial table, like the quotes says, and that in switching things around slowly, removing some things replacing them with others we can either worsen or better or situation. This is something I was taught at a really young age, so I was so surprised to hear the metaphor in the show!

I took this quote in two ways, the first: having the ability and drive to work to change your circumstances can be something that is so beneficial when planning the steps from the point A to point B that everyone talks about. Realizing that you aren’t necessarily stuck or stagnant in a situation and that you can change things, can offer a great new perspective when you think you’re out of ideas and options! Two as I mentioned before not settling and never sitting by watching something happen that you aren’t comfortable or happy with go on, can be great in any situation. Career, friendships, relationships, fitness/health etc. If you don’t like something, figure out your options, work hard, and make the necessary changes, flip the table over.

#NotesOnASunday
Kc

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NOTES ON A SUNDAY

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The weekend is coming to an end so I hope you guys had a good one! I had the most amazing pizza at Motor City Brewing Company and got drinks with some friends who came up from Chicago! I wanted to start this series of posts, which I’ll probably do every other Sunday just to give you guys a bit of a glimpse into what I’m thinking and my life on a non-fashion level. I got an email from one of my readers asking about my job, how I balance blogging and stuff and why I don’t put it on my blog.(I love getting emails from you guys by the way so send ’em my way at chicanddefined@gmail.com!) It made me think about how I usually don’t put outside life and personal stuff here on the blog and really don’t have a reason why. I think it’s important for me to intro that stuff slowly and I just never took a first step, so here it is#NotesOnASunday! I thought this was an easy way to take a quote or phrase that would let you guys in my life a bit right now and explain why!

A lot of times, especially right after college, it’s easy to fall into the cycle of comparing yourself to others. Who’s doing what? Who has the best job? Who’s at the best grad school? Who’s getting married? (so not interested in that last one ha!) It can literally go on and on. I sometimes find myself falling into that cycle as I’m scrolling through my Facebook Newsfeed and seeing people doing stuff, or not doing stuff- we all know a few, and kind of getting envious of some of the things people are doing. Don’t get me wrong- I feel like I’ve accomplished a lot and am on a great path, but seeing other people’s experiences sometimes effects me ya know?

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you know that I graduated in May 2014 and began working for a big marketing firm in the social media marketing dept. right after. This was a big choice for me as I unlike a lot other people, decided not to go to grad school. I just thought it wasn’t for me, and wanted to start my working career in marketing or PR. Even still I found myself second guessing, when people would ask where I’d applied, and told me about their plans for after graduation. I know I should be really happy that I have a great job, that I love and am doing something related to my ideal career, because I also have those friends who, for lack of better term, settled and are doing something totally unrelated, but in scrolling through my Facebook I get those same feelings. Seeing people who have moved to different parts of the country, who are traveling or in great grad-school programs always makes me second guess.

When that happens I immediately log off, because by then I’m totally over it, and refer to the quote above. Knowing that I’m where I need to be, that I’m on my own path and making things happen the way I want them to, not in comparison to someone else’s life, definitely gets me back on track and into a much better mood! It’s good to see what others are doing every now and then to keep fueling my drive, but not as a benchmark for where I should be. Ever. Do you guys ever fall into that cycle of comparison? Let me know in the comments below! And if you like this type of post hit the like button so I can decided whether or not to keep doing them!

Kc

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YOU CAN MAKE PLANS….

Luck or fate that takes the form of (4)

When I was growing up one of the things I hated most was being disappointed or not being able to do something I had planned to and had my heart set on. I remember it so specifically because, I’m still kind a that way now and I actively try to work on it! Life is full of disappointments and no one has time to be in a slump. Too much potential shopping to do!

Anyway you guys get it-disappointment is not my thing. I do have a scale though, which is much better than I used to be, it goes from like Sephora being sold out my shade in NARS concealer– which is amazing FYI- to something more serious like not getting a great response on a project/idea that I’ve spent weeks on.

Nevertheless, whenever I’m having a moment where I feel that big cloud of disappointment coming or I can feel that maybe my plans aren’t gonna work out, I remember something my mom always used to tell me, (she’s good for making appearances in these types of post ha!) “You can make plans, but you can’t plan the outcome.” When I was younger I would just brush it off as one of those cliche mom sayings, that all moms just say and no one really knows the actual meaning. But now it helps me get a grip and get back on track! Not always, because I’m not perfect and honestly some stuff just sucks, but a lot of the time it does. What kinds of things do you guys do when plans don’t turn out the way you meant for them to? Let me know in the comments below or on Twitter @ChicandDefined! 

Kc

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